Most of us learned early, and learned well, that it was safer to ‘seem fine’. Perhaps feelings just weren’t part of the family lexicon. Perhaps opening up was met with stony silence or, worse, censure. So, we learned to tidily tuck the difficult...
Something I hear a lot from my patients with depression is some iteration of this: “I’ve got a good partner/an okay job/my kids seemed to have survived me; I’ve got so much I should feel grateful for, but I just don’t. I feel dreadful.”...
Most parents arrive at the idea of therapy late, and often sideways. Something has gone wrong; grades have fallen through the floor, a bedroom door has slammed shut and stayed that way, a school nurse has rung with worrying news. By the time parents pick up the phone...
Respecting a teenager’s privacy (with non-negotiable exceptions) isn’t soft parenting; it’s evidence-based parenting. Autonomy is a core psychological need, and intrusive, controlling parenting is reliably linked to more anxiety and depression, not less risk. The...
